Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Rumor Has It...

We are all wrapped up in our own little worlds with our own little concerns and our own little lives.  But somewhere along the line, we have to realize that we are all intertwined with each other.  There really is only 6 degrees of separation between everyone in the world.

Sweets tells me to let things go a lot.  Sometimes I get so wrapped up with a statement or an action of another person that it flips the psycho switch for a few minutes and I have to go off on a tangent to get my frustration out of my system.  But the tangent is based on fact because it's either in front of me in black and white or a quick snippet comment about something I just heard on the radio or television.  I never repeat something I've heard about someone.  Why?  Well... honestly over half the things you hear second hand about another person is almost always BS, exaggerated and quite simply the wrong information. Ever played the kid game "Telephone?"  Exactly.

I've been the victim of rumors before and for some reason, it still occasionally happens.  Although I find it comical in a sense because I've been living a much quieter life for some time now.  But, when it does happen and I hear about it I have to laugh because... well... why are you still talking about me after all these years?  Especially when the source is someone I really never knew to begin with.  People are more inclined to believe the first thing they hear about you, even if that first thing is a lie.  And this my friends was inaccurate second hand information from someone that I know of but never spoke to.

In the past, I've always tracked down the source and confronted the person about what they said.  Talk about your uncomfortable moments, but this isn't high school anymore and some people REALLY just need to get a hobby and butt out of what they know nothing about like say... my life over the past 6 years.  I'm chomping at the bit and have been for months to do the same here but made a promise to Sweets that I wouldn't.  Damn it.

As I'm sure you have already figured out, this is an EXTREME peeve of mine.  I can't stand inaccurate information and rumors with anything, let alone about me.

If you feel you have to "warn" my husband about my past, you would be preaching to man that already knows everything and trust me, he makes me look a choir boy so you are wasting your oxygen.  We weren't teenagers when we met.  We both have a past and have led extremely interesting and fun lives and it's one of the things that we love about each other.  But if you feel it is within your obligation to "warn" him, at least get the information correct so I don't have to take time out of my busy day to correct your inaccurate perception that you felt you just HAD to tell him about something he already knows about.  Thank you very much for your cooperation, it is much appreciated.

The moral of this story?  Don't believe everything you hear and if you aren't sure, weren't there or don't even know the person, just shut up and don't feed the rumor beast.  If you are talking negatively about other people behind their backs, you may want to take a look at your own life to try and figure out what YOU need to make your life better.

Of course positive is always good.  But unfortunately people seem to be more interested in the negative.  Go figure.

I can't believe I even had to say that.  *sigh*  Drama does not live in my house so don't try to bring it in.  If you are an adult, act like one for goodness sake.

And that's all I have to say about that so I'm climbing off my soapbox for today.  :)

Hope you have a wonderful Wednesday!

*hugs*
Lanie

2 comments:

  1. Firstly you change your header like your underwear...lol

    Secondly congrats on diamond status

    Thirdly everything you said is sad but true, people don't give a rats ass about the positive, unless of course you make/win lots of money, then they'll be at your door. But the negative oh they lap that up, trust me really really have a lot of experience there.

    But I just ignore them and go on about my business as those people generally don't matter to me anyway.

    Plus if they still have to talk about crap you did years ago they are the ones that need a life.

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  2. Sweets --- Warning, Warning, Warning ... LOL

    Lanie is a great girl and you should be glad you took her off the market. Well, not really much of a warning :-)

    Yes I like her as much as any friend could! hehe.

    Tired and mischevious ;-)

    Chris :-)

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